'New year, New you'? Nah, let's just start with awareness

THE "NEW year, New you" mantra can be super overwhelming, right? It's like the whole world is expecting you to transform into a brand-new person overnight. But here's the thing: it's not about becoming someone else, it's about becoming the best version of yourself.

The pressure to change can be intense, especially with social media showcasing people's ambitious resolutions and polished lifestyles. It's easy to feel inadequate if your own goals don't measure up or if you struggle to stick to them. Plus, the idea that you need to completely overhaul your life in one go is unrealistic and can lead to disappointment and self-criticism.

As the year comes to a close, the pressure to set new resolutions and goals can be overwhelming. But what if this year you did things differently? What if, instead of rushing into setting goals, you took a moment to reflect on what truly matters to you?

Financial struggles can be super tough, making it hard to think about planning for the future. When you're just trying to make ends meet, thinking about yearly goals can feel like a luxury you can't afford. But here's the thing: planning doesn't have to be overwhelming. Start by focusing on the present moment and what's within your control. Identify one area where you can make a small change or improvement, and build from there. Even tiny steps can add up over time.

According to Annemie Burger, HR director at Penguin, setting meaningful goals starts with reflection, not pressure. "We live in a culture that's always pushing us to do more, earn more, achieve more," she says. "However, lasting change doesn't come from ticking off boxes; it comes from being intentional about who we are and what we value."

So, before you start writing down your 2026 goals, ask yourself these five simple questions:

1. What did this year teach me? Take a moment to look back on what you've overcome, what you've learned about yourself, and what you'd like to leave behind.
2. Where did my energy go, and did it serve me? Think about what filled you up and what drained you. Were you investing in things that made you feel alive and purposeful?
3. What does success look like for me? Forget about comparisons and external expectations. What does success truly mean to you?
4. Who do I want to grow with? Surround yourself with people who lift you up, challenge you, and support you.
5. What will I do differently this time? Instead of setting the same old goals, think about what small change you can make to get a different result.

For Burger, setting goals isn't about pressure; it's about possibility. "You don't need to have your whole life figured out by January," she says. "You just need to start with awareness. When your goals reflect your values, it becomes easier to stay consistent, because you're working towards something that feels authentic to you."

So, take a deep breath, let go of perfection, and set goals that feel grounded, kind, and personal. As Burger says, "The most powerful thing you can do for yourself in 2026 is to be intentional."